The other day I met a woman. She said she needed some help. So, I went through a few things with her and she gave herself (not me) a lot of excuses why she cannot do certain things. One thing interesting is that she said “I’m sure something is out there for me; so, I am waiting.” I was astounded to hear that. She also said “I want to do something and I am waiting for that something to come.” Normally, if there is something out there, one would go and find it.
Waiting for something to come or happen is like “I want to go to the car and I am waiting for my leg to move” or “I am waiting for the car to come to me”. When you want to go to the car, you just pick up your feet and walk to the car. If you do not move, the car will not come to you.
We often wait for things to happen and we give ourselves excuses why things don’t go the way we want.
Remember, the car is always there, it is up to you to get there.
During my consultations when I say “Change or Die”; people feel that I am exaggerating or they feel that I am harsh. The other day, I was watching “Gordon Ramsey’s Kitchen Nightmares”. The show is quite interesting. He was helping a restaurant that will close in a few months if nothing is being done. So, he implemented quite a few things for the owner and the staff to do and change. The owner was resisting very aggressively and was in an argument with Gordon Ramsey. Then, Gordon Ramsey went outside and said to the camera; “If the owner does not change, he is missing a great opportunity. If they stay the same, they will not survive. They have to Change or Die.”
Most people do not want to change. We want to grab hold of whatever we have and refuse to let go. We give ourselves excuses why we cannot change or let go of what we are holding. We do not want to change anything and we have the illusion that when nothing changes, things will eventually be better.
The problem is everything changes. We are always getting older and the time is always running. This minute and the last minute and the next minute are different. Nothing stays the same. When we try to stay the same and everything else around us is changing; we will feel a lot of pain and the pressure to change.
Are we constantly changing and moving or are we trying to hold on to whatever we have? Remember, CHANGE or DIE!!!