Normally the saying is “Stop and Go”; so why is the title “Go and Stop”? Stop and Go means we stop to see what is happening first before we go. Go and Stop means that when we intend to do something, then, we consciously and unconsciously have the feelings and thoughts that are contrary to what we intend. It is similar to while stepping on the gas pedal of the car; we try to step on the brake at the same time. When we do that, nothing happens, the car stays at the same place with the engine running.
This is when we feel that things are going well and then all of a sudden, something goes wrong and everything falls apart. Instead of blaming it on the circumstances, situations or other people, this is the time when we need to take a hard look inside ourselves and see what were our thoughts and feelings that are contrary to the intentions of what we are doing.
Instead of Go and Stop, we should Stop and Go. We stop to see what is happening in ourselves and everything around us, then; we know where to go and what to do. Just like we continuously aware of what is happening on the road while we are driving.
Are we Stopping or Going or are we Going and Stopping? You may find life a little easier if you Stop and Go instead of the other way around.
In last few years, there are many ways for people to connect. There are cell phones, text messaging, websites that are used to connect to people including people that we have not seen for a very long time, people who we don’t even know, people who have the same interests, people who want to talk to someone, etc. The trend is like wild fire and everyone is frantically trying to connect to everyone else. Businesses use them as advertising while others use them to know what is going on in the world or just to vent out and chat.
People talking and texting while driving, waiting in line at the bank or even while they cross the street with their baby stroller and dog at the same time. I always wonder what is so important that it cannot wait. I also wonder what people talk about when they are on the phone continuously for hours.
Why so many people want to connect in the first place? We are in the world with a lot of pressure and restrictions. Most of us are looking for ways to express ourselves and to find something that we can connect to in the world. Many of my clients told me that they absolutely cannot live without their cell phone.
In the old days, people connect without the cell phones and they seem happier then. What had changed? We desperately want to connect with everything outside that we are not connecting with ourselves. They are never present at whatever they are doing. Our bodies are in such chaos with so much thinking that we do not want to face ourselves. Therefore, we constantly look for some other things to do.
We CONNECT with friend.
We CONNECT with Facebook and Twitter.
We CONNECT with work.
But we DISCONNECT with our own self.