The other day I met a woman. She said she needed some help. So, I went through a few things with her and she gave herself (not me) a lot of excuses why she cannot do certain things. One thing interesting is that she said “I’m sure something is out there for me; so, I am waiting.” I was astounded to hear that. She also said “I want to do something and I am waiting for that something to come.” Normally, if there is something out there, one would go and find it.

Waiting for something to come or happen is like “I want to go to the car and I am waiting for my leg to move” or “I am waiting for the car to come to me”. When you want to go to the car, you just pick up your feet and walk to the car. If you do not move, the car will not come to you.

We often wait for things to happen and we give ourselves excuses why things don’t go the way we want.

Remember, the car is always there, it is up to you to get there.

Most people do not want to change.  We want to grab hold of whatever we have and refuse to let go.  We give ourselves excuses why we cannot change or let go of what we are holding.  We do not want to change anything and we have the illusion that when nothing changes, things will eventually be better.

The problem is everything changes.  We are always getting older and the time is always running.  This minute and the last minute and the next minute are different.  Nothing stays the same.  When we try to stay the same and everything else around us is changing; we will feel a lot of pain and the pressure to change.

Are we constantly changing and moving or are we trying to hold on to whatever we have?  Remember, CHANGE or DIE!!!

This is when we feel that things are going well and then all of a sudden, something goes wrong and everything falls apart.  Instead of blaming it on the circumstances, situations or other people, this is the time when we need to take a hard look inside ourselves and see what were our thoughts and feelings that are contrary to the intentions of what we are doing.

Instead of Go and Stop, we should Stop and Go.  We stop to see what is happening in ourselves and everything around us, then; we know where to go and what to do.  Just like we continuously aware of what is happening on the road while we are driving.

Are we Stopping or Going or are we Going and Stopping?  You may find life a little easier if you Stop and Go instead of the other way around.

People talking and texting while driving, waiting in line at the bank or even while they cross the street with their baby stroller and dog at the same time. I always wonder what is so important that it cannot wait. I also wonder what people talk about when they are on the phone continuously for hours.

Why so many people want to connect in the first place? We are in the world with a lot of pressure and restrictions. Most of us are looking for ways to express ourselves and to find something that we can connect to in the world. Many of my clients told me that they absolutely cannot live without their cell phone.

In the old days, people connect without the cell phones and they seem happier then. What had changed? We desperately want to connect with everything outside that we are not connecting with ourselves. They are never present at whatever they are doing. Our bodies are in such chaos with so much thinking that we do not want to face ourselves. Therefore, we constantly look for some other things to do.

We CONNECT with friend.
We CONNECT with Facebook and Twitter.
We CONNECT with work.
But we DISCONNECT with our own self.

Most of us EXPECT the government to provide the services that we want.  Since our needs are different, then the government has to provide for the different needs.  That is why there are so many measures and such.  It has reached to a point that we become dependent on government to take care of us and we EXPECT the government to take care of us.

The relationship of the government to its people is one of responsibility and non-responsibility.  Just like we EXPECT the husband, wife, parents, kids to take care of what we want and we do not want to be responsible for what we are supposed to do.  We do not even want to be responsible for our own health, other people or government is EXPECTED to be responsible and take care of our needs.

We EXPECT and depend on others to care for our pains, our lives, our relationships and our experiences; we do not see what is possible and what we really want in our lives.

What are your EXPECTATIONS in your life?

Generally, Free is when there is no exchange of money and Value is something that is valuable to that person whether it is the brand name, the memory, etc.

With Internet, many people expect information to be free.  However, if something has VALUE, people are willing to pay for it.  Of course, VALUE depends on each person’s perspective.  I see people paid for hundreds of dollars for something that actually make their body worse and will not pay a dime for something that will help them.

There is value to everything.  Even Free things such as information have value.  Most of all, we have value in us.  This is the value that others cannot take from us.  However, most of us do not recognize the value we have in ourselves.  We always see value in other people but we seldom see value in ourselves.

When we do not see value in ourselves, we then feel that we do not deserve or not good enough to make money or do whatever we want.

Whether you work for someone or have your own business; it is important to understand what is free and what is value.  Many people do not want to make money because of the perception that if they make money; they are like the greedy bank CEOs.  Or they feel that they are not good enough or they feel that their work has no value.  Most of all, they do not feel they have value.

If you feel you have no value, others will also feel that you have no value.  Do you see the value in you?